#6 Is there anyone genuinely irreplaceable in our life? Let us not question our existence here, we for sure came through a woman and man, and they are irreplaceable. I think it’s unreasonable to examine the fundamental aspects of life. Leaving the two fundamental people responsible for our existence in the world, is everyone else truly replaceable?
For most of us, there are people who we feel are irreplaceable. If the understanding between the people goes in sync, there is no trouble until the last event of our life, i.e., death. When there are a series of instances of misunderstanding, we often struggle between the thoughts of relieving ourselves from the relationship and holding on to the relationship since they are ‘irreplaceable’ in our life. Most of us juggle between these two states. When I look at this closely, I understand that we tie an individual to a role that we expect them to play for us. We feel discomfort when the individual hesitates or discontinues playing that role. Now, like everything in life, it is a question of time. If you are lucky enough, that individual will resume playing the role you want them to play.
Coming back to the fortunate ones who have people around them precisely playing the role they wish them to play all through their life, there comes the unavoidable death. In the event of this death, it becomes difficult to accept the void. Suddenly, there is no one to play that role. So, for everyone, at some point in time, life gives them an opportunity to understand the fundamental mechanics of life. The people around them are replaceable. All the relationships we rejoice about in life are people’s roles. We may now ask this question; do we need someone to play some part for us?
Almost all of us do not get this point because of how we experience life. The woman and man to whom we are biologically tied are irreplaceable. They are unique. In life, a specific set of people come to you by default. Was this choice made at some level? or was it just a happening is beyond the capabilities of most of us. It just occurred. The roles that stem out of these connections are naturally considered irreplaceable. It is here most of them fail to realize the reality. Some biological fathers are more motherly than their biological mothers, and at the same time exist fathers who are devils. Some friends become brotherly than yours, even if you don’t have one, and so on. In life, you only play roles with people and situations. Now you can ask one more question. If people around you are replaceable, are you replaceable?